5 Reasons Why You Should Not Give Money to Your Man
There is nothing wrong with giving your partner money. Your partner is your friend, perhaps, the person in your life – why should it be a big deal to give them money?
1. They can become lazy
When you pay the bills, your partner may not feel the need to work. When they don’t feel like working, they will feel less responsible for themselves. They will depend on you and keep you in the role of breadwinner without any form of financial support.
What’s worse?
They will think that what you are doing is extremely normal and relying on you is the best they can offer in the relationship. It is toxic when they feel entitled to their finances. You will be responsible for the hard work, and they will spend the money. You can’t keep this up for long, which is why, as a woman, it can be rude to ask your boyfriend for money when you have no plans to make your own.
2. Hurt his ego
As stated earlier, men have been known to be the sole providers of food for their families. While you may think it’s funny to keep giving your boyfriend money, he may, on the other hand, be hurting himself. Most men want to earn and spend more than their wives, and when you keep throwing money his way, he may accept it as if you are trying to outdo him. He breaks your ego when you give money as you come across as if you are trying to show off your huge earnings.
3. They love a Flashy Lifestyle that they can’t afford or maintain
It’s okay to love a flashy lifestyle. It’s okay to have expensive taste, but if they can’t afford it, let alone maintain it, they’ll hate you for paying their bills later. If your partner takes you to expensive places and gets you to pay the bills, you have to get them to watch your lifestyle or else you will go broke.
4. They have no property or savings
If your partner has been working a good job for a long time and there are no savings – that’s one reason why you shouldn’t give your partner money. Your partner has no financial goals; this will affect you if you follow the romance.
Most likely, you will pretend that everything is fine when nothing is fine. Your partner may have bad financial management plans: this is something you can help them with before you fall behind.
If you borrow money from him as a woman, is it bad to ask your boyfriend for money back? No, it’s not, but it’s a terrible feeling when he’s not paying because he has no money.
5. It can be the reason for your breakup
Many relationships break up due to different misunderstandings. Finances, especially shared finances, are a source of arguments and you giving your boyfriend money is no different. If anything, things may become more difficult in this case, as you may feel that he owes you an explanation for what he does with the money he gives you. You will end up feeling shortchanged if he spends it in ways that you don’t support, and the two of you may end up constantly arguing about it.
Final words
Don’t give your partner the money you can’t afford to lose. You should be happy to let go of that money as if you were making a sports bet that you knew could go wrong. If you are in a toxic relationship, that is another reason why you should not give your partner money.
They may up and leave one day, which will leave you depressed and betrayed. If it’s not what you want, don’t give when you can’t afford to.
The exception to giving even when you can’t afford it is when there are genuine reasons for the need, the need is urgent, and without you, they may face serious consequences.
This article is not about being selfish; it is about taking care of yourself.
Comment below, what are your thoughts? What are the other reasons why you should not give money to your partner that have not been listed.
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